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Trevor M. Ahrendt, PsyD

Clinical Psychologist, PSY #26754 | HE/HIM

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Primary Focus

I found adolescence and high school pretty damn miserable, even though I outwardly “performed” well. I cared deeply about things that others didn’t and was indifferent to what others found important. This left me feeling terribly alone, and I soon became profoundly depressed. This pushed me into a lifetime of exploration.

I pursued a dizzying array of personal growth approaches — self-development seminars with lousy coffee, spiritual pursuits (often in yurts; they’re always in yurts), and an overabundance of self-help and, worse, philosophy books. This led to a brief fantasy of becoming a monk at a Zen center, waking up far too early to stare at the floor for long periods. A few intensive meditation retreats cured me of this desire, though those were useful.

While many of these experiences were helpful, the approach was so scattered that it was hard to piece it all together. I was fortunate to have a family member who valued psychology and introduced me to long-term psychotherapy. This profoundly transformed my life and helped me integrate the various experiences I’d had. Fascinated by the field, I wondered if I could help others, so I began to work as an addiction counselor at Massachusetts General Hospital.

My own therapy and addiction counseling inspired me to pursue a doctorate at The Wright Institute. I immersed myself in cognitive therapies, mindfulness, relational approaches, and deepening my knowledge of addiction recovery. Alongside my psychotherapy studies, I continued exploring other paths – Buddhism, Indigenous Celtic spirituality, psychedelic medicine, and intensive group therapy. When I discovered the research, our clinic is based on, I knew I had found the key I’d long sought—a flexible, comprehensive, scientific model for understanding why we do what we do, how we get stuck, and how to get unstuck.

Given my extensive experience in therapy and personal growth, my passion lies in tailoring therapy with a holistic, open-minded approach while honoring its research foundations. I’m also dedicated to improving therapy and making it more integrative. I regularly teach and supervise therapy effectiveness, addiction treatment, and integrating therapy with spirituality.

What to expect in therapy with me:

My style is warm, direct, pragmatic, and irreverent. Patients often appreciate my ability to quickly identify and connect key themes in their lives and to develop practical solutions and actionable insights. Given my broad range of experiences, people frequently feel comfortable sharing and integrating unconventional aspects of themselves and their journeys.

I strive to be “just right”—often a step ahead of where you are, guiding you in the direction you need. For some, I’m a cheerleader encouraging them to embrace their authentic selves, even if it feels non-traditional. For others, I help ground their unique experiences to be more effective in their jobs or relationships.

I teach, supervise, and am also a patient of psychotherapy. If there’s a therapeutic approach out there, I’ve likely explored it. I regularly seek feedback on how therapy is progressing and encourage open discussion about your needs and expectations, even if it feels uncomfortable initially. We can explore your relationships with yourself, others, the world, and spirituality (if you’re interested in that).

While I’m skilled in short-term, solution-oriented work, I often work with people seeking long-term, fundamental changes in their lives. I specialize in addressing “complex developmental trauma”—a term that often refers to “really messed up childhood experiences”—and help individuals piece together their lives as adults to live deeply fulfilling and well-examined lives.

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If you think you might want to work with me, please reach out! Let’s have a 20 minute call to see if it’s a good fit.

Credentials

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Who I help

Modalities

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Recent Presentations and Courses I’ve Taught:

Favorite Books & Resources:

As I mentioned above, I’ve read widely on personal growth, philosophy, spirituality, psychotherapy research, and mindfulness. I love recommending books to patients. Here are some of my most recommended ones:
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Sayings/Philosophy

Humans don’t overcome trauma by wishing it didn’t happen. We overcome trauma through connection.

We don’t feel safe because we learn to feel the world is perfectly safe – it isn’t and never will be. We feel safe when we have a community to hold our fears and wounds.

Experience is the best, and ultimate, teacher. Though you do have to be paying attention.

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